Dating

Deep within each of us is a longing to love and be loved just as we are.

Describing dating as hard is an understatement; It can be confusing and heart-wrenching. At times it can make you feel broken or hopeless or feel like everyone you’re attracted to is. It can lead you to declaring defeat, vowing singlehood and deleting apps…until the hunger arises and dares you to hope again.

Yet, dating can be a unique gift. It serves as a window into the kaleidoscope of our unconscious relational landscapes. Delving into these blueprints, tending to our hurts and rewriting a new story about love can help us date from a healthier, more grounded, and connected place.

We can help.

Individual TheRAPY

Therapy tailored just for you can aid in untangling the intricacies of your unique relational blueprints and guide you toward new patterns that foster healing and growth. Despite swimming (and at times, feeling like we’re drowning) in a sea of insights and relationship experts, it’s not uncommon to still feel lost in it all. Equipped with insights to the gills we vow to grow stronger, raise our standards, fight harder and do something different but that only works when we can untangle ourselves from patterns that are layered deep within. Working with a relational psychotherapist that is trained and attuned to these elements can help.

For more information or to be match with a therapist please inquire here:

GROUPS

One of our most exciting offerings is the chance to learn, heal, and grow within the context of groups. Psychodynamic groups provide an environment for accelerated learning and discovery, all while grounding you in a sense of community and connection. There are groups for Women+, Men+ and folks new to ENM/CNM and Polyamorous relationships.

Good Love (Women+)

Good Love: is a psychodynamic, psycho-educational deep dive into the intimate and often unconscious landscapes of our desires for dating, love and relationships. Good Love is designed to be a space for women and will occur in person.

Our earliest offering will occur downtown Toronto from February 23-25, 2024. (Friday February 23 6pm-9pm, Saturday February 24 9:30 am – 4:30 pm, Sunday February 25 9:30 – 4:30)

There are 13 spots available and 2-3 sliding scale spots reserved for those who have been marginalized in employment opportunities. Cost $444.00+ HST = $501.72 for 15 hours of psychotherapeutic learning and support. A deposit of 150.00 to reserve your spot will be required unless you are applying for a sliding scale spot which will be determined as PWC.

We are welcoming and respectful of all women, including cis women, trans women, femmes and those that are nonbinary, gender non-conforming, and any others who identify as a woman in a way that is significant to them.

““In patriarchal culture males aren’t allowed simply to be who they are and to glory in their unique identity. Their value is always determined by what they do. In an antipatriarchal culture males don’t have to prove their value and worth. They know from birth that simply being gives them value, the right to be cherished and loved."

~bell hooks

Man in the Mirror (Men+)

As a man, you know better than any other the pressure to conform to a type of masculinity that is hurting you and the relationships you’re in. It requires you to live by a rigid standard that often robs you of the fullness of being human. Vulnerability, needs and hurts are often buried or can be punished or denied if brought forth.

Furthermore, as men you were groomed to not foster or demonstrate relational and emotional intelligence placing you at higher risk of emotional, mental and physical health disparities. We all have needs for safe places to let down our sheilds and to authentically connect.

It is vital that we create healing spaces for men that do not villainize you for learning adaptive strategies to survive in a patriarchal world but instead honours the fullness of you.

Based on works by Terry Real, bell hooks: “Will to Change” and Justin Baldoni’s book “Boys Will be Human” and his podcast: “Man Enough” we will explore the relational needs of men that are misunderstood or completely ignored in the context of relationships.

We are welcoming and respectful of all men, including trans men, and those that are nonbinary, transmasculine and gender non-conforming, and any others who identify as a man in a way that is significant to them.

Too Much Heaven (ENM/CNM/POLY)

In today’s world, we have more freedom than ever to shape and build relationship structures that truly reflect who we are. We’re not confined by societal norms of the past. We can be creative and authentic. And as exciting as this can be, it can bring up unforeseen challenges even when we are theoretically completely aligned. The prevailing stigma surrounding non-monogamous relationships can create barriers to openly discussing difficulties. Therefore, it becomes crucial to foster supportive environments where individuals feel accepted, affirmed, and understood.

This group will endeavor to bring together folks who are navigating these challenges in a safe and affirming environment. It will serve to explore relational dynamics that are particular to developing strong, secure and healthy partnerships when there are more than two involved.

Based on Works by Jessica Fern “PolySecure” and “PolyWise” as well as Martha Kaupi “Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)”